In remembrance of Mickey de Valda, died 20th September 2007



Mickey De Valda (right) with Julie Downs and Marius Romme


Mickey de Valda, 1947 - 2007

"Marius Romme bowled me over – he changed the direction of my life." Mickey de Valda

We are extremely saddened to learn of the death of Mickey de Valda on the 20th September 2007. For ten years, Mickey de Valda was the chairperson of the English Hearing Voices Network, a voice hearer activist and steadfast supporter of fellow voice hearers. His long time campaigning work on behalf of the hearing voices movement will never be forgotten.

Mickey regularly spoke at public meetings, conferences and seminars in the UK and elsewhere in Europe and he always had something new and of significance to say to his audience, his message helping professionals and voice hearers think differently about the voice experience - and - most significantly giving space for the development of new hearing voices groups and other initiatives.

Mickey wrote extensively about his voice hearing experiences (see his chapter in called "Mind as Computer" in Raising Our Voices and "Hearing Voices: My own experience" (available from the Hearing Voices Network). His unpublished work "Schizo" a 700 page autobiographical account of his travel in the 1970´s and 1980´s, retelling his experience of fringe religious groups, voice hearing, his varoius interpretations of their meaning and his encounters with (and escapes from) psychiatric services. He also wrote a regular column, until 2005, for the Hearing voices Network Newsletter called "Mickey´s Update" and rereading them, it is clear that Mickey was an intelligent, sensitive man with loads of common sense and a wonderful sense of humour. You can read excerpts from "Mickey´s Update" here.

As a young man Mickey was diagnosed as having "schizophrenia" and was hospitalised on a number of occasions, including within a secure unit. As he said in the Hearing Voices Network Newsletter (Summer 2004) about a vist to Milan and hearing of the hitory of abuse of psyhiatric patients, he reflected on his similar experiences, "Like me, patients were tied to beds, but whilst I was only tied up for one week, these poor souls had been kept tied to their beds for months. Some of then were naked, with only a sheet to cover them. Admittedly, some of the pateints seemed wild and deranged, but what else can one expect in a system that obviously treats people no better than animals"

It was Mickey´s sense of social justice alongside unyeilding optimism that people can truely help themselves that made his contribution to the movement so important, as he once said,
"You may be sure the efficacy and the power of bringing people together to share their mental health problems with their peers will reach out to all parts of the world"

Mickey, we´ll miss you mate and by the way, you were right!

Mickey's funeral will be held on Thursday 4th October at 12:45pm at Southern Cemetery, Manchester.

If you wish, please use the message board below to pay tribute to, remember, share experiences and talk about Mickey and his work.



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  1. PaulSeptember 21, 2007 @ 03:52 PM
    I will always remember Mickey´s energy and supportiveness from the early days of the Hearing Voices Network and I was honoured when, some years later he asked me to read his autobiography - what an amazing story - I hope one day it makes it into print, it would be a fitting tribute to the man.

    Mickey was a thoughtful man, with a wealth of common sense and great compassion for his fellow human beings. His involvement with HVN and the wider hearing voices movement was so positive and without him, I´m sure we would not be where we are now.

    Thank you so much Mickey, for all your work and for caring for people the way you did.

  2. Tony ScannellSeptember 21, 2007 @ 04:59 PM
    I remember Mickey as a warm and enthusiatic man whose sense of empathy and social justice shone through even though I only met him a couple of times. He was kind enough to visit us in Wrexham and was instrumental in helping us get the Hearing Voices Group off the ground here. His inspiration continues to affect me and other group members to this day and I am sad to here of his passing. Thank you Mikey.
  3. shuresh patelSeptember 25, 2007 @ 11:07 AM
    thankyou for giving me this opportunity to help on this however sad occassion but I asked HVN to ask Mickey to consider trying to replace part of his much troubled year with therapies - I do not know if he ever got this message successfully however this is YOUR chance to see that therapies MIGHT work for you - I have achieved a 60% reduction in my medication using alternative SUPPORT therapies to SUPPORT the Medical Model NOT substitute it - Mickey had a troubled year and I felt for him because he went cold turkey on his medication which I do not recommend because it created much mental pain for him - MEDICATION needs reducing very slowly if at all possible. I will light a candle for Mickey who was one of my great inspirations and helped me on one occassion with Sharon Devalda - that I can never pay back but I am grateful for meeting that great man and Leader. My heart goes out to his family and I will burn Indian incense and light a candle for him. It was an honour for me to be inspired by this Leader of the HVN. I thankyou again for allowing me to use this opportunity to maybe increase some people's awareness. Thankyou Mickey I hope you found peace. from, Shuresh Patel, Psychology Department, University of Bolton, UK.
  4. BenSeptember 25, 2007 @ 03:22 PM
    Mickey allways made me laugh allways made me think and allways made me glad he was there fighting for the HVN. My sympathy to his family and everyone who loved him.
  5. Louise PembrokeSeptember 25, 2007 @ 05:48 PM
    I'm deeply sorry, Mickey gave more to HVN than anyone else I can think of
  6. Rita (on-off HVN vol)September 26, 2007 @ 04:43 PM
    Mickey truly epitomised the word 'unique'. In many ways he exemplified that breed of people which is becoming increasingly rare- the self educated member of the working classes. Even when I struggled to understand his views, far less agree with them, when he was what a psychiatrist might call 'incoherent', there were flashes of the warmth, astute humour and down-to-earth intelligence which made him the star he was when at his best. He had a talent for cutting through the crap, seeing situations for what they really were and articulating this even when appearing to be preoccupied with his own world. He often seemed to be what Laing described as “struggling to make sense of a senseless situation”, refusing to accept the world could really be as injust as it was without opposition. In recent years I found him hard work and, at times, a bloody nuisance to be honest, but the world needs a few more bloody nuisances in my opinion.. I really feel I learnt from him and I am glad to have known him.
  7. Roddy GordonSeptember 27, 2007 @ 12:58 AM
    Sad to hear of Mickeys passing,always found him to be a friendly interesting guy,made me feel welcome,which I greatly appreciated,as I am sure do many others, Thank you Mickey
  8. Mary MaddockSeptember 28, 2007 @ 08:43 PM
    I didn't know you Mickey, but from what I have read about you, THANKS for speaking out and trying to be YOU against the odds. We who are still here will try to keep the flame alight and hope that it will get brighter and brighter and eventually dispel the darkness of control and force. In spirit, Mary.
  9. Ian ParkerOctober 02, 2007 @ 03:47 PM
    Mickey, you fought and spoke out, and put energy into helping others in the Network fight and speak. I am glad to have met you, and sorry that now you are not here. Your spark of life has gone, but you left behind some powerful heat and light - people who will remember you and know better through having met you that there is really a better world worth struggling for with dignity (and laughter) for all.
  10. Adam JamesOctober 02, 2007 @ 06:59 PM
    I am very sad. Mickey was an unsung hero, working, contributing and giving his unique voice to the Hearing Voices Network. I've read his unpublished novel which is a massive piece of work. What a colourful, daring and extraordinary life "schizo" Mickey had led - it's of a genre all to itself. Mickey was also sharply intelligent and a political theorist whose ideas were enticing but, I guess, too radical for our age. Memories last and last.
  11. ireneOctober 04, 2007 @ 09:22 AM
    Mickey was my brother in law and people have used the exact words that I would use when talking of him. Words such as intelligent, unique, thoughtful, warm, humorous. He often came to stay, along with his wife Sharon( my sister), and we shared many a joke - clean and otherwise - ! He would often get on his soapbox over issues and most times I couldn't keep up with his notions and ideas but I miss him now and wish I had had more patience. Why can't we ever tell people these things when they are living instead of saving it for when they are gone. Human nature I suppose. Thank you so much Mickey for your support of my sister in past years. xx
  12. Julie DownsOctober 04, 2007 @ 11:01 AM
    Mickey my friend and colleague, I will miss you, you were such a support to me when I began to work at HVN. I trusted you totally and had great respect for you and your work. I always admired your honesty and intelligence and will miss the talks we had about you ideas. You never fully recognised your own value but others did and will continue to do so through the work you have left behind. We both loved some of the same music, I will never listen to Tom Waits or Bob Dylan again without remembering you. Mickey you were Diamonds and Gold, l will celebrate you life today, love Julie
  13. Eunice Doyle nee DevaldaOctober 07, 2007 @ 10:32 PM
    What lovely comments for our Mickey . At his Funeral. Listening to the vicar talk about Mickey made me stop and think that i never knew the man .As a brother yes. But what a lovely kind and thoughtful man. I wish now i had taken more time out to see him. But luckily i saw him a month before he died and we had a laugh about when we were kids.We used to be close when we were young being only a year apart him the 2 august and i the 12. I will never forget my lovely Brother Mickey. I Don't know what Mickey believed in if it was God or ?.But if there is a God then i hope he is up there with Mam and Dad his Brother Paul and his sister Jackie . Your loving sister Eunicexxxxxxxxxxxxxx
  14. Rosemary MooreOctober 08, 2007 @ 04:22 PM
    I read the news of Mickey de Valda's death first on the Soteria Network Yahoo! board and wondered who he was. I know a little more now that I've read his articles and seen the messages on this board. But what happened to this admirable and sincere man when he needed help? Shuresh Patel says in her message: "Mickey had a troubled year and I felt for him because he went cold turkey on his medication which I do not recommend because it created much mental pain for him..."
  15. ireneOctober 10, 2007 @ 03:28 PM
    Rosemary this is Irene, the lady who posted three posts behind you on this remembrance site for Mickey DeValda. Do get in touch with me if you want- I can give you some help with your query. email is iebs_2000@yahoo.co.uk
  16. Rosemary MooreOctober 13, 2007 @ 12:08 PM
    Dear Irene, thank you very much for responding to my message about Mickey. I have written to the email you've given and hope it arrived ok. Just in case not, my email is rosemary.moore@virgin.net. And If you click on my name in red at the top of this message, this will take you to my website www.mentalmagazine.co.uk which should explain my interest. Thanks again and I look forward to hearing from you.
  17. caroline kerrOctober 18, 2007 @ 01:08 PM
    I found Mickey to be a friendly welcoming upfront man and I am glad I met him. Love and strength to you Sharon X
  18. Shaz deValdaOctober 24, 2007 @ 11:38 AM
    I am devastated & shocked at losing my dearest husband & friend, Mickey de Valda. I miss him terribly & cannot believe he has gone for good. I would like to thank him for loving me, through good times & bad... I think of him all the time. He cared for me for over 20 years, & we had some laughs. I will also miss him working here at the Hearing Voices Network; he did a lot for them too. Mickey, take care where ever you are, I love you with all my heart & ALWAYS will. R.I.P.- Shaz. XXXXXXXXX. God Bless..... Good bye!
  19. MOOctober 29, 2007 @ 11:58 AM
    I was shocked to find out that Micky has passed away two weeks later, i am very sad and disapointed for not attending his funeral, he was such a great chap and i use to help him as much as i could with computer related problems.
  20. Bolade ShomadeNovember 06, 2007 @ 07:59 PM
    Hi ,it's bolade here, I was mickey's firend for about 20 years we meat at the zion center. And form day one mickey had something to say. I use to say he a gater mind . He said one day,that we must take care of the plant bacuse it must last us till the sun goes out. We use to take a lot on the phone.I have the phone bills to shwon for it.I can go on about mickey for a long time. Mickey has gone to a beter plcae. I hope that one day we meat agin and we take off form were we laft off.
  21. Nick DeValdaNovember 12, 2007 @ 09:36 PM
    Although mickey was my dad, i didnt know him for that long. But the mickey i did know was amazing. So intellectual, and fascinated by everything. He taught me valuable things in the time we spent together, even if i didnt understand some words he used or from which perspective he was at. He will always be close to my heart and never forgotten.
  22. Steven IrelandNovember 14, 2007 @ 12:02 PM
    I knew mickey for about 2 years. When i first came to the hearing voices network he made me feel so welcome. he was a genious. i can remember the conversations we used to have, and one joke he told me about the hairy lip squid (fairy liquid) he helped me so much. he was a very nice man, and i was honored to have known him. I will always remember you mickey. Shine on! your friend steven xxx
  23. aaron de-valdaNovember 19, 2007 @ 10:10 AM
    unkle micky was a great unkle and very intelligent, always happy and smiling. although its sad we have lost him he will not be forgotten
  24. Hywel DaviesNovember 23, 2007 @ 08:50 PM
    Mickey was a blunt communicator who, after all is said and done, left the mental health world in the UK and elsewhere a better place. He put his head above the parapet and I, for one, followed, however frightening it was for me at times.
  25. KarinaDecember 03, 2007 @ 11:31 AM
    I have just found out that Mickey has died and feel really, really sad. He was a great character and will be sorely missed. I knew Mickey and Sharon in the early days of HVN in Manchester and Mickey was always a great humourous character. He had a topsy turvy life but he did live and had a few adventures in his richly lived life. He didn't let the grass grow under his feet. He is an inspiration to us all.
  26. katherine eastonMarch 17, 2008 @ 03:42 PM
    i have only just found out about Mickey's death and i am very sorry for this loss. i volunteered at teh manchester HVN few uears ago and carried out some research with the help of the organisation. Mickey was extremely interesting in anything that would help get his message heard. Considering all he had been though he was constantly up beat whenever i saw him, enthusiastic and full of life. I read on a statement that Mickey never fully belived in his own abilites and i would echo this statement. he was incredibley intelligent and articulate and the world is a poorer place now he has moved on.
  27. Jo the Uber Genius fae AbdnMarch 17, 2008 @ 07:25 PM
    I remember Mickey with fondness. I have just learnt of his passing. He was great with me. Always there with some cheery story in the midst of everything. The world has lost a great eccentric (and I mean that in the nicecess possible terms). Someone else will have to take over the job of winding the psychs up :). (nae me.....Well...okay...so I do have my psych's email :)). And I have just learnt that facebook is being bugged by the CIA so tell me. Did George Bush kill Mickey because I didn't realise about the robots and Bush in September (I only knew about Microsoft windows and it frying everyone's brains) so do I need to work harder at saving the robots from George Bush?"
  28. sylvia robertsMarch 17, 2008 @ 09:33 PM
    i was married to mickey 38 years ago. his illness had just come to him. i did not understand the change in him. we had a lovely son together nick devalda. i truly did not know what he had achieved till nick found his dad.i am proud of him.he had a special name for me "mother earth" he really believed that i was the only woman in the world to have a natural child birth. everyone else were test tube babies, now i understand why, he believed what he did. it was because he was present at his sons birth.rest in peace now mickey. sylviaxxxxx
  29. sylvia robertsMarch 19, 2008 @ 09:51 PM
    in my last piece i am remiss in that i did not mention that in the last four or five years mickey and i became friends again. even though it was only by telephone. he was making plans to come to south wales at some point. he has two lovely grand children, nicky lee phoenix and amber storm devalda.sorry nik for not saying this in my last piece. i know how much he meant to you, and it seems hundreds if not thousands of people. sylvia
  30. Andrew HughesApril 07, 2008 @ 08:56 PM
    Mickey was great fun to spend time and collaborate with. We did it a few times. We both talk so much that sometimes it was like an interrupting competition when we tried to have a conversation. I wish I had known him better, but glad to have known him at all.
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